I thought I had found new purpose as a stay-at-home wife. Keeping a home for more than myself and my family seemed a wonderful idea! Practicing hospitality and sharing what we had with others appealed.
But in the midst of my excitement, I also had to stop and consider the amount of energy and effort this change would require.
My battle with chronic fatigue is real. I’ve experience burnout and I have NO desire to do so again. If I was going to increase my giving of self, how could I ensure that I was being taken care of? Was there a way I could better manage my life and energy so that I didn’t crash again?
My concern was real. And as I contemplated, memories slowly returned from a time past when I had worked a highly demanding job. There, I was trained to carefully guard myself, to ensure I was being re-charged.
That was it! Of course!
WHY REFRESHMENT IS IMPORTANT
Doing life requires something of us, takes something from you and I! And in the flow of life, we need to remember that we don’t have inexhaustible sources of physical and emotional energy. No way! Those of us who have crashed once never want to repeat that landing!
I began to recognized that if I was going to implement change in the home, I needed to ensure (first and foremost) that I was caring for myself. There needed to be an adequate amount of refreshment in my personal life.
But wait! Did I even know what refreshed me? I had…once upon a time.
MAKE A GENERAL LIST OF FILLERS
I decided to make a list of things that refreshed me as an individual, as a relational being, as a homemaker. Pen and paper in hand, I got busy.
Join me, won’t you?!
Take a piece of paper and at the top, put the word ‘general’ (example below). List the things that fill you according these three categories: home, relational and personal.
What makes you feel good about your home? Content with your management of it?
Relationally, what satisfies you? Makes you glad inside? Connected with people and to the Lord?
How are you wired as a person? What makes you feel alive? Refreshed?
List these according to category. Add to it throughout your day as more ideas come to mind.
Hang onto that list because we’re going to come back to it soon!
But this. This list reveals how you are wired. These things ought to be part of your life, not just a few times per year, but often! Chew on this idea until our next posting.
IMPLEMENTING FILLERS INTO OUR LIVES
We need to know what recharges us if we are going to keep ourselves (and therefore our homes) going. And the things on your list? Begin implementing them into your life. Start slowly and realistically. Pick one item that really fills you and ensure it happens once this month! Next month? Repeat or choose another.
Also choose one little thing every week that you can incorporate into your schedule. Give it a set date and time, if necessary!
We’re all facing different season of life and in order to meet the demands place upon us, we must see that times of refreshing-whether big or little-are present.
Stay tuned for part 3 because we’re going to talk a bit more about this idea. And keep your list handy because we’re going to be adding to it!