One last personal life habit I want to talk about is this: finding someone who can help ground the electrical charge when life’s friction makes you want to ‘strike’ everything and everyone around.
Every new phase of life and season of homemaking comes with its own set of unique challenges. Sometimes the thunder clouds slowly accumulate while at other moments, the storm literally explodes without warning.
But for every one of us, the storm does come. Due to friction therein, an electrical charge lets loose from us, a bolt of lightning. That charge must be grounded, or we’ll end up frying everyone and everything around us.
As homemakers, we will be able to better deal with difficult times if we have a ‘grounding source’ in our lives!
We need someone to help us sort through and pray over our struggles! Someone outside the home and situation to help absorb the charge we feel and to help us safely direct it to the ground.
NOT YOUR HUSBAND
Your man can be a wonderful source of grounding…at times. But women also need to talk to other women, bounce things off of someone who gets it. Your husband isn’t wired the same way you are and can’t meet you in the same way another woman can.
Don’t get me wrong: your husband should be a key part of the home, someone you can talk to and pray with. But he shouldn’t be the only one. In spite of what you may have thought upon getting married, he’s ISN’T superhuman!
A TRUSTWORTHY INDIVIDUAL
As homemakers, we know life isn’t all lavender and roses. We all need a wise woman in our lives who will hear and ground our frustration. Someone who won’t wave it to others after we’ve left, but leaves it there, buried in the earth.
We need someone who has been through it before. A woman who sees the whole picture, who will listen and be compassionate, but who can also speak the hard truth we sometimes need to hear.
When I think of such a woman, I think of someone who has walked the road I am currently on, who has felt the strain and tensions I battle as a stay-at-home wife. I think of someone older. Someone who isn’t up to their armpits in dishes and dirty diapers anymore, who has broken through to the other side.
CHOOSING SOMEONE TO GROUND THE CHARGE
Have you ever opened yourself up to another woman, only to discover she wasn’t “safe?” If so, you are not alone! Many of us shy away from sharing because (sadly enough), we’ve been burned.
It’s important to test the waters before stepping in. Before asking someone to enter into your life, take time to observe that individual.
Do they listen well? Or are they too busy spouting their own ‘wisdom?’ Are they interested in and concerned for the welfare others? Do they respect differences in the people around? Can they agree to disagree, state their opinion but leave you with your own, no strings attached? Will they speak the truth even when it’s difficult?
Whenever possible, I highly encourage you to choose someone local. A person who can literally walk into your home and observe how you do life. See your interactions with the home, husband and children.
I recognize some of you live in rural areas where people are few and far between. Schedule in a monthly phone date with someone you trust.
Confession time? I have yet to find my ‘grounding force’ in this valley. The need is becoming more and more apparent as the months go by. I’ve been considering and praying about a few options.
BECOME A GROUNDING SOURCE FOR SOMEONE ELSE
It’s easy to get caught up in what we need. Instead of just taking, its also important to remember to give. As you have been blessed, so bless others.
When the season is right, consider becoming a grounding source for someone else! A newly married gal? A struggling teenager? As you have been given to, so give to others.
What do you think? Is it time to start considering a grounding source? Time to become one for someone else?
To move into household management habits, read part 9: A House Cleaning Schedule.